|My son at 2 weeks old was probably |
more alert than I was.
"Becoming a parent may happen on purpose or by accident, but however it comes about, parenting itself is a calling. It calls us to recreate our world every day, to meet it freshly in every moment. Such a calling is in actuality nothing less than a rigorous spiritual discipline -- a quest to realize our truest, deepest nature as a human being. The very fact that we are a parent is continually asking us to find and express what is most nourishing, most loving, most wise and caring in ourselves, to be, as much as we can our best selves." ~ Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting
|Yes, mom is still seeing way less than her kids.|
I'm caught up in being polite, my daughter is being herself.
"Many of us come to parenting with a vision that we're supposed to be a couple of steps ahead of our kids. In truth, most of us are usually a few steps behind.[...] As parents, we're often asked to teach skills to children that we don't yet have ourselves. Our children draw on parts of us that are undeveloped, unpracticed, and, in some cases, damaged.
When your son and daughter are fighting with each other, you want them to learn to resolve their differences successfully, but you may have never learned to successfully work through conflicts yourself. Before you can teach your kids to listen, identify the problem, express their feelings, generate solutions, and find common ground, you have to learn those problem-solving skills yourself" ~ Becoming The Parent You Want To BeI've had to look deep within myself to try and understand my reactions to my children. I've read countless books and blog posts, attended numerous workshops and sat through many, many therapy sessions just trying to learn as much as I can about what it means to be a parent. I didn't realize how seemingly inconsequential things in my childhood had become such a part of who I was as an adult. The pain of the past wasn't apparent until my son and daughter held a figurative mirror up and showed me.
"Your children give you the opportunity to grow and challenge you to examine issues left over from your own childhood. If you approach such challenges as a burden, parenting can become an unpleasant chore. If, on the other hand, you try to see these moments as learning opportunities, then you can continue to grow and develop. Having the attitude that you can learn throughout your life enables you to approach parenting with an open mind, as a journey of discovery" ~ Parenting From The Inside Out
|Had you asked me a few years ago what my|
definition of success was, it would have been
a completely different answer than it is today.
"Yet I know that if I really want to encourage my own two children to follow a course in life more purposeful than accumulating wealth, power and prestige, I must first acknowledge the value of such a life to myself. I need to show, by my own example, that the path to fulfillment has but little to do with mastery and conquest and much to do with coming to know oneself, finding pleasure in everyday events, doing work that matters, living in community with family and friends, being loved and loving in return." ~ The Gift Of An Ordinary DayThank you for reading!
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