Friday, December 23, 2011

Weekend Reading And Happy Holidays!

Feeling the love for
my readers. 

Christmas weekend is already upon us. It's so hard to believe yet another year is coming to an end. I hope you have some down time during this busy weekend to relax and read a little. With all the holiday celebrating and shopping this week you may have missed some of the wonderful and interesting articles that I shared this week, so here's your weekly wrap-up! But before I begin, I want to take a minute to just say a heartfelt thank you for every single one of you. Whether you comment regularly, forward and share my posts to friends or just simply read them whenever you have time, I love you for it. I try to be helpful, honest and open with each post and when you tell me something has helped or resonated with you even in some small way, it makes it all worth it. Thank you.

And with all that said, here are this week's posts, articles, quotes and thoughts that inspired and interested me this week. I hope you enjoy them:

My Favorite Parenting Posts This Week

If There Is A Silver Bullet, Your Toddler Probably Hid It
"There are hard days and there are amazing days. There are days when your toddler is fun, and loving, and cute. But there are also days when your toddler is frustrating, and stubborn and difficult. There are days when you are an amazing parent. But there are also days where you feel like the worst parent in the world (I know because you’ve told me and because people Google “I’m a bad mother” every day and end up on my blog)". 
~ From PhD In Parenting.

"I want to be like all of them. They inspire me and push me to be a better person every day. Sometimes when we have children we think of it as the end of our dreams, the giving up being "The Great... whatever"- but I would challenge us to think of it differently. Challenge us to think of it as the beginning of making our dreams come true, because we now not only answer to ourselves, but also to these incredible spirits we bring into our world."

"It seems this is a conversation that needs to continue to happen. There is so much emotion, judgment, misinformation, and misunderstanding around this issue, and that’s not good for parents or babies.  Also, the question of how to respond to a baby’s cries goes right to the core of how we view babies, and how sensitively and respectfully we care for them".
~ From Lisa Sunbury's blog, Regarding Baby

"It was time to talk about the unknown.  It was time to break their little hearts and open their world to worries that no kids should ever know.  It was time to talk about loss.
“You haven’t met my daddy because my daddy isn’t here anymore.  My daddy is up in Heaven.”
Their eyes, his perfectly round and blue and hers perfectly round and brown, burned a hole through my heart as they waited for more.  A simple explanation would not suffice this time around". 
~ Katie Hurley's beautiful post about discussing her deceased father with her children (Katie writes a wonderful blog called Practical Parenting. This was a guest post on Moonfrye Family).

"This isn't good for either sex. Girls are being taught to aspire to be a princess – whose main job is to wait for her prince to come, and to doll herself up in the meantime. It is a passive role in which the dominant desire is to be desired. They aren't encouraged to be an active or brave agent, like a fireman or soldier or doctor or train driver. Boys lose out too, though. If they fear they can't go near a craft set or a doll, then they won't have a chance to indulge the creative or loving side of their nature. Why should love be reserved only for females? Or cooking, for that matter?" 

News Of The Week

Lego's wonderful ad from 1981.
Forget the pink aisles and new girl figures with
breasts, bring back beautiful!
"Dear Lego,
Legos were special. They were unique and creative and helped kids to build. Legos inspired kids’ imaginations. Boys and girls could play Legos together. But with your new product, Lego Friends, created for girls, I can no longer tell the difference between Lego toys and the ubiquitous Disney princess products or Barbies. Is that the point? Because if it is, your copy cat strategy abandons the very qualities that made your toy great". 
~ From Margot Magowan's blog, Reel Girl.
"Marketers, ad execs, Hollywood and just about everyone else in the media are busy these days insisting that girls, the “other 50%,” as LEGO puts it, are not interested in their products unless they’re pink, cute, or romantic. They’ve come to this conclusion even though they’ve refused to market their products to the girls they are so certain will not like them. Who populates commercials for LEGOs? Boys! Where in the toy store can you find original LEGOs? The boy aisle! So it’s no wonder LEGO’s market research showed girls want pink. It’s the environment and the message marketers have bombarded girls with for over a decade because, of course, stereotypes make marketing products so much easier." ~ Sign the petition if you want to tell LEGO that girls love LEGOs just the way they are!

"Imagine a toy store where the aisles are separated by color. The toys in the different-colored aisles contrast sharply from each other, and send strong messages to the children viewing them about what is and is not accepted and expected from children of the other color. They also send strong messages about which colored child should be in which aisle, and where their interests lay. For the most part, the children accept the color lines and stick to their aisle. Grown ups seem to have no problem with it.
The Black Aisle for African American kids. The White Aisle for Caucasian kids.
Oh, is that offensive?" 
~ I love this short post from Pigtail Pals
My Favorite Visual Of The Week
This protest collage is what you should show every person who says 
that breastfeeding in public is obscene. 

My Favorite Quotes Of The Week

“When a child hits a child, we call it aggression.
When a child hits an adult, we call it hostility.
When an adult hits an adult, we call it assault.
When an adult hits a child, we call it discipline.”
~Haim G. Ginott

‎"Behavior" is NOT the problem. 
Your child's inability to MEET HIS NEEDS in acceptable ways is the root issue. Listen, acknowledge, validate, empathize and strategize about NEEDS & FEELINGS and negative behavior will be transformed. 
Connect the mind to body.
Get Emotional.
Stop trying to have your way.
Be the bigger person.
~ via TEACH Through Love

"Children's strong feelings do not disappear when they are told, 'it is not nice to feel that way' or when parents try to convince them that they 'have no reason to feel that way'. Strong feelings do not vanish by being banished; but they do diminish in intensity and lose their sharp edges when the listener accepts them with sympathy and understanding."~ Haim Ginott 

‎"When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you" ~ unknown

And with that, dear readers, I wish you a truly wonderful holiday. As always, I love your comments and insights and please join me on Facebook and Twitter which is where I post all of these things I find interesting but can't find time to blog about!

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