Friday, December 16, 2011

Weekend Reading

There's nothing I love more than time
to read quietly by myself.
When I started this blog I also started being more active on both Facebook and Twitter and subsequently got connected to literally hundreds and hundreds of wonderfully interesting people who write, think and talk about parenting and anything related to it. I know not all of you follow me on those social media sites ( would be awesome if you did!) which is where I share many of the things I find interesting, but don't have time to blog about myself. For some time I've been intending to send out a wrap up of some of the best blog posts and articles I've come across over the week. Hopefully you'll have time over the weekend to catch up on what you may have missed!

My Favorite Parenting Posts This Week

Communication or Miscommunication?
"Parents, you are the center of your child’s world for many years, and they WILL model themselves after the example you set. If you listen to them, they will learn to listen. If you are rude to them, they will learn to be rude. If you treat them with respect, they will learn to be respectful. If you are angry, demanding, and harsh with them, they will learn to be angry, demanding, and harsh. And so on. Live out how you want your children to turn out. That, parents, is what it means to “train up a child in the way he should go.” A powerful post from the always insightful Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources.

Calm Down Corner - My Way
Who know glitter glue could be so helpful?
"I know you may thinking, "What? A fun place to go when they're in trouble?" :) This is not a punishment, but a place to calm the mind. When my kids are regulated, I sit down with them and we talk about what happened and ways to improve or handle things better the next time. After all, the goal is to teach them better so they know what the right thing to do is, and they are much more receptive to my teachings when their brains are calm and regulated." Positive Parenting: Toddlers And Beyond is one of my favorite blogs. The author never fails to bring me back to how I want to be parenting.

Don't Fix These Toddler Struggles "Stop. Breathe. Observe. Then intervene in a way that empowers, but only if necessary". Wonderful advice from Janet Lansbury on ways to stop getting so involved in our children's struggles. Lessons parents can learn no matter how old their kids are!

The Good Tantrum: Attachment And Emotional Expression 
"Whether you are four or forty, being human means having to deal with a lot of feelings, feelings that don’t come with a time stamp. They can sneak up on you, just like Tom triggering memories of how small and insignificant I felt as a child under my mother’s judgmental gaze.  And we all, big and small, deserve the opportunity to share how we feel in a caring, thoughtful and non-judgmental space. It saddens me when I hear parents proudly say they don’t put up with tantrums and send their kids off to the solitary confinement of their rooms until they can behave “properly.”  I know they love their children, but what a lost opportunity to nurture and support them!  That would be like my husband telling me, 'I have no intention of loving all of you.  I only want to see the parts that are easy for me' ". Very interesting post from The Parent Scientist via the inspirational Lu Hanessian from Parent2ParentU

My Favorite Holiday Posts this week

Christmas Classics II This is cheating I guess because this post was written by Dana of Feast After Famine last December, but it is such an all-time favorites of mine that I have saved it. On top of that, it is such a brilliant idea for children's gifts that I had to share it. Dana, I'm stealing this idea from you this year!

Why Having Less Toys May Bring More Happiness To The Family
"Hey, I love to see my child happy as much as the next mum but I have found an alternative route to this joy which involves not having all the toys. Here are my top reasons why:" Wonderful insight from Loving Earth Mama

An Unwelcome Detour Turned Into An Unforgettable Moment

"When I picked my son up from school on Monday, I had a lot on my mind. Exactly one hour was all we had to run a quick errand, go to the grocery store, and then off to pick up Little Sister.
I see him and immediately remind him that we’re in a bit of a rush.
His face slightly drops. But, I thought you were taking me to the park so I could ride my bike.
My face drops.
Oh yeah, I think, I did promise didn’t I? Looming deadlines, unfinished Christmas cards, and lack of groceries swirl around in my head. I don’t want to, I think with immense guilt. But, I did promise". I love this post from Confessions of a Dr. Mom and I think we can all relate to the feeling of being pulled in two directions. 

Have you ever thought about being a real secret Santa? 
Anonymous Donors Pay Off Kmart Layaway Accounts. Not a blog post, but a news article. Still...such a simple way to make someone else's Christmas. Can you imagine if we all helped a family this way? What a difference we could make. Oh, and yes...I totally cried reading this.

A Video You Must See

Annie Murphy Paul is the author of "Origins: How the Nine Months Before Birth Shape the Rest of Our Lives." and this is her TED Talk titled What babies learn before they're born. "The fetus, we now know, is not an inert blob, but an active and dynamic creature, responding and adapting as it readies itself for life in the particular world it will soon enter. The pregnant woman is neither a passive incubator nor a source of always-imminent harm to her fetus, but a powerful and often positive influence on her child even before it's born. And pregnancy is not a nine-month wait for the big event of birth, but a crucial period unto itself -- "a staging period for well-being and disease in later life," as one scientist puts it". For some reason I wasn't able to embed the video here, but please watch it and read the interview with Annie Murphy Paul by clicking here.

Eye Opener Of The Week

Top 5 Regrets In Life By Those About To Die
"Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness" - from

Favorite Quotes Of The Week

A parent's love is whole no matter how many times divided.
~Robert Brault

"Punishment is something that happens to someone.
Discipline is something found in someone." 
~ Amanda Morgan, Not Just Cute

I'd love to know what your thoughts are about this week's wrap up. I hope to do this every Friday and am always interested in hearing what moves you, intrigues you and inspires you.

Happy reading!
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