|My kids. Twins, yes. But more different than alike.|
(Ignore the weird smiles...my son is a goof & my daughter
thinks this is how Rapunzel smiles - no teeth)
"Before I had twins I had a vague concept of what I thought being one was like. In this fantasy, twins were joined at the hip, did everything together and were always each other’s best friend. Oh, and they probably also could feel each other’s pain from miles away, too. In reality, my boy/girl twins, and the twins and triplets I know well, are like any other set of siblings you might meet: sometimes they love each other and other times they can’t stand each other. I don’t think any of them have ESP."This idea I once had about what twins are like is actually a misconception that is held by a large part of the population. It is perpetuated by both the media and, through a lack of understanding, by people who don't have multiples. I am often surprised to find parents of multiples who also buy into what twin expert and author, Dr. Joan Friedman, calls "The Twin Mystique":
"What's behind the infatuation with twins as mysterious, inseperable, and magical? There is something inherently captivating about the idea of having a double because it invokes a human longing for an intimate, lifelong companion who thoroughly understands us. With such a companion, we feel we would never be abandoned or alone. People project this longing onto twins and see them as enjoying an idealized relationship."
I watched Nightline's Beyond Belief show on "Twintuition" last night. It didn't really make me change my stance on whether twins have some special paranormal bond. I did find it interesting that all of the twins they spoke to were identical twins. It does stand to reason that twins who were once a single embryo that split (thus, sharing DNA) might have a similar thought process and seem to be reading each other's minds. It does make sense that twins who always dress alike, spend all of their time together and live together well into adulthood (as many of the twins seen on the show did) would be able guess what color or number the other is thinking of. None of that seems particularly psychic to me.
The funny thing is, I really do believe in psychic abilities and I do think some people do have the ability to pick up thoughts and sensations from others. I just don't buy into the idea that twins have cornered the market on this simply based on the fact that they're twins.
What do you think? Did you see the show? Did it make you believe twins have special abilities? Do your children exhibit "twintuition"? Leave a comment - I'd love to know your thoughts.
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The Twin Coach
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