Friday, March 16, 2012

Weekend Reading: March 16, 2012

Thank you for being a part of my village.
It's been some time since I rounded up a collection of my favorite posts of the week from around the internet and blogosphere. I had intended to do it weekly, but...sometimes life just gets in the way of my plans!

Lately I've been considering the concept of "it takes a village to raise a child". Of course I understand the original intention of that phrase and even the more modern interpretation of extended family and community helping us bring up our children. I hadn't, until recently, considered the idea that my "village" had become, in large part, the positive parenting community I have become a part of. This virtual village of bloggers, educators, caregivers and parents give so much support and guidance, have so much parenting wisdom and share so much knowledge that I am incredibly grateful to have found them. I know my relationship with my children has benefitted so greatly because of the people around me.

I hope you have a few moments this weekend to slow down and savor some of this really good stuff from members of my village. Some of it is straightforward "how to" stuff, some of it is to just make you think. Either way, I hope you enjoy it (click on the titles to read the the full post).

A little positive parenting...
What Is Positive Guidance, Exactly? {Amanda Morgan, Not Just Cute} 
"Perhaps the number one misconception is that positive guidance, or positive parenting, is the equivalent of passive parenting.  There’s this notion that the overriding principle is to keep everything positive.  Translation: keep the kids happy, no matter the cost.  For some, it conjures up an idea of spoiled kids calling all the shots, while their parents turn themselves inside out to shield them from consequences and give them everything they want in the name of preserving peace and protecting self-esteem.
Sorry folks.  This is not positive guidance."
Testing The Boundaries - What's A Parent To Do? {Linda Knost, Little Hearts Books/Gentle Parenting Resources} 
"Challenging behavior in our children can be really…well, challenging! How do you ‘handle’ a child who suddenly refuses to wear shoes or sit in her carseat/seatbelt or eat, period? Here are some tips to help you regain that snuggly, loving relationship you used to enjoy before your baby became a…shudder…PERSON!"
Nothing makes me crazier than when my
kids fight in the car
The Peaceful Parenting Approach To Kids' Conflicts {Genevieve Simperingham, The Way of The Peaceful Parent}
"When children argue, they’re not trying to make life difficult, but rather they’re experiencing a problem, one that’s very big and very real to them. Children much prefer to be having fun. When two kids argue, they generally both feel frustrated, misunderstood, wrongly accused, rejected and overwhelmed, to name but a few emotions.  Additionally fearing their parent’s rejection, blame or, worse still, punishment is not what they need.  What they do need is help with managing those uncomfortable feelings that build up in their young bodies and support to solve their problems." 
A little inspiration...
Ode To Adolescence {Janell Burley Hoffman for Huffington Post Parents} 
"I cannot remember the last time I sang you a bedtime song, shared a blanket with you, trimmed your fingernails, pushed you on a swing, tied your shoes or cut your chicken at dinner. I do not know what the inside of your locker looks like, who you sit with on the bus, or what you choose for lunch in the cafeteria."
Moments Of Connection With Our Children {Darlene Denis-Friske for The Neufeld Institute} 
"Instead of attempting to increase the amount of scheduled quality time with a child, I propose something far more basic and fundamental: increase the quality of simple moments everyday whereby you slow down to connect with your child.Parenting is not about what you do with your child, it is about who you are to your child."
A little something to think about...
Slow down and connect. It makes all the difference.
Why The Ritalin Debate Is Asking The Wrong Question: Healing Our Kids' Soul Fever With Simplicity {Kim John Payne for Huffington Post Parents} 
"Ultimately, it comes down to a choice. Parents need to decide whether they believe childhood is a fast-paced enrichment opportunity or a slowly unfolding experience. Can we unplug from the viral world for long enough to allow their kids' disorders to flow back into their innate gifts, ready to be offered to the world in their own time, in their own way?"
Love Key To Brain Development {Dr. Charles Raison for CNN Health}
"One generation full of deeply loving parents would change the brain of the next generation, and with that, the world."
I hope there are some good things in here for you. I'd love to hear from you about who's in your village and what inspires you! Leave a message below in the comments. 

Thanks for reading!
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