Bear With Me

I’ve fallen behind on so many things lately. Not the least of which is this blog. I have a number of posts I have promised to write, intended to write, want to write…and my life just keeps getting in my way. Not in a bad way, just that I’ve been rather overwhelmed.

Uncharacteristically, I’m not quite ready to share every detail of what’s made it so hard for me to write lately, but one of the things that’s been added to my plate in the last week is that I’ve learned that my children both have some major food sensitivities which means we need to do an overhaul of the way we eat around here.

This shouldn’t necessarily throw me for a loop, but given that I am perhaps one of the worst cooks out there, I am having to start from scratch. My children, understandably, aren’t completely happy with the idea so it’s been stressful trying to help them understand why we have to try this. Add on to all of that my penchant for obsessively researching information which has meant that for the last 5 days I have been buried in articles about living free of gluten, cow’s milk, eggs and soy. I’ve been a little preoccupied.

foodsensitivity1I had our children tested in part because our son has had some issues with his tonsils and adenoids. But because his symptoms keep coming and going, his ENT and I were hesitant to have surgery performed. Our daughter, as I’ve written about before, has some intense emotional outbursts that seemed to be getting more intense and more frequent. Since I’ve often read about the brain/gut connection and because I felt as though I’ve tried everything else to help her, I thought I’d check out this route.

So, here we are, about to embark on a new dietary life. I don’t want to bore you with the details unless they specifically make some improvements in our children’s lives. But I wanted you all to understand at least part of the reason why I’ve been less than prolific in my posts as of late.

Bear with me. I have a post about The Kindness Tree almost done and a couple of wonderful guest posts answering reader questions about sibling conflicts! I’ll have those all up during the next week or two.

In the mean time, if any of you happen to be dealing with similar food issues, I would love and appreciate any information, books, blogs or words of advice! Please leave them below in the comment section (or email me privately, if you prefer, at [email protected]). I look forward to hearing your thoughts!

Help For Sibling Rivalry: Teleseminar Replay 3 Days Only!

Last night I had the great honor of conducting a teleseminar with Patty Wipfler of Hand in Hand Parenting on ways to help improve sibling relationships. For some reason I was nervous about doing this seminar and kept procrastinating about posting about it here. So I apologize if you didn’t know about it and missed listening in. But never fear, you can still hear everything we spoke about!

I wrote recently about Patty’s new online course “No More Hitting” and really am a huge fan of the work she and her team do. In many ways, her approach is very unique and really powerful. I’m hoping that through these seminars she’s been holding with educators like Janet Lansbury and Laurence Cohen (author of Playful Parenting), the techniques she teaches will reach more and more parents and become less unique and much more commonplace!

Patty and I spoke last night about our thoughts on sibling relationships and various ideas we have for improving them. If you happened to miss it (which you very well may have because I didn’t tell you about it!), she very graciously has released the recording of the talk which is avaialble for FREE for 3 days only. The link will expire on May 21st after which they will be selling the recoding for a nominal fee.

siblings fightingI hope those of you who were on the call found some helpful advice from both Patty and myself. A few of you left me some really lovely messages both here on the blog as well as my Facebook page…thank you! Knowing that you’ve made some breakthroughs in parenting your children makes me so happy.

So, whether you’re listening to the seminar for the first time or listening again, please let me know in the comments if there are any questions you had about what we discussed or any questions you have that we didn’t manage to answer.

I’d like to try and take a few of your most difficult sibling issues and answer them as blog posts. So, fire away!

Additionally, a few people asked me about the Kindness Tree that I mentioned in the seminar and I do want to detail that more fully for you and promise to do that in my next blog post!

Want To Know What It’s Really Like Raising Twins?

When I first found out I was pregnant with twins, one of the first thing I did was to find books to help me prepare for the road ahead. Since I didn’t yet have any friends with twins and didn’t yet know about joining a multiples club, books were my first resource.

While there are a ton of books on being pregnant with twins or taking care of newborn twins, there are few and far between that I know of that tackle life as a mom of twins over the span of years. And even fewer that are real, honest and make you feel as if a friend was letting you in on her personal story. That is, until Jane Roper wrote her book Double Time: How I Survived—and Mostly Thrived—Through the First Three Years of Mothering Twins.

I “met” Jane on Twitter about a year ago and soon became a fan of the smart, funny, self-effacing style of her Babble blog, Baby Squared. I was very excited when Jane told me she had just written a memoir and asked if I would read it.

What I loved right away about Double Time was that I felt as though at last someone was speaking my language. Jane doesn’t necessarily offer “how-to” advice on handling a twin pregnancy or those first months (or years) with twins, but she chronicles so many moments any parent of multiples will recognize that you instantly feel as though this is a friend who has been in the trenches with you. You feel bonded. You feel understood.

Most importantly, you come away from reading this book with a picture of what it’s really like to raise twins, even if you don’t have the added complications Jane had of battling severe depression, being the family breadwinner or struggling with feeling pulled away from the career you had originally dreamed for yourself.

double timeDouble Time: How I Survived—and Mostly Thrived—Through the First Three Years of Mothering Twins is hilarious, honest, compelling and ultimately very uplifting. It’s a great gift for new and expectant mothers of twins and a great read even for those of us who have passed the stages Jane writes about. It’s just so refreshing to feel that there’s someone out there who “gets it” when it comes to being a parent of twins and hasn’t sugar coated the difficulties or minimized the joys in any way.

Jane Roper’s memoir is released today, May 8th. I was honored to be given a chance to read it in advance and Jane has very kindly offered a copy to be given away to my readers. Please leave a comment below and let me know who you’d like to win a copy for (even if it’s yourself)!

I’ll pick a winner at random (via Random.org) on Mother’s Day, May 13th. Please be sure to include a way to contact you if you win and share this review with your friends – I think every mother or mother-to-be of multiples should have this book on her bedside table!