Monday, September 22, 2014

All Your Discipline Questions Answered. No, Seriously.

How can we teach our kids right from wrong,
without losing a loving connection?
Photo Credit
For many of us, our job as parent is fairly easy until our children begin to be able to voice their wants, needs and opinions with some vigor. At this point we adults are faced with issues we didn't anticipate, and many of us are sorely unprepared for how we react when our previously lovely children no longer do what we want them to do when we want them to do it!

And this is probably just about when the questions about "how can I discipline my children?" begin. 

I remember asking those questions. I remember feeling so frustrated, and so exhausted, and so useless as a parent when my son and daughter would do the exact opposite of what I told them to do, or when they would fight endlessly about nonsense, or when I would end up screaming because I just couldn't take it anymore. I read every book and asked every expert and tried every technique (some of which worked, many of which didn't). Ultimately, all of this is why I started this blog - to help those of you who became parents after me short cut to the good stuff. 

Today I have some super AMAZING good stuff for you (so good that I am actually writing a post on my blog which lately has been sorely neglected because of other writing projects - I am so sorry and thank you to all of you who are sticking with me and I promise I will be back here soon). And yes, this amazing good stuff has to do with discipline, and your kids, and making parenting easier! And don't forget to read to the end because I have a little surprise for one lucky reader. 


Sunday, April 13, 2014

Twins And Postpartum Depression: Amber's Story

"Recent research pinpoints hormonal imbalance as the cause of PPD, making mothers of multiples particularly at risk for this condition due to the increased hormonal fluctuations that accompany their pregnancies. The intensified demands of caring for two, three or more infants make it even more likely that a mom of multiples will feel overwhelmed, drained or depressed after her babies are born." ~ Multiples.about.com
There are times I look back on the early years with our twins and wonder if I had some form of postpartum depression. I didn't think I had anything at the time, other than exhaustion, anxiety, irritation at my husband and the occasional bouts of depression I had battled all of my life. 

Whether it was full blown PPD, I can't say for sure. However, given that some research shows that 43% of mothers of multiples experience Postpartum Depression, it's certainly a possibility. 

Recently a mother in my multiples club shared her story of PPD and kindly agreed to let me interview her here. Amber Weitz is a stay at home mom to 28-month old twin boys, Connor and Jake. She is also a photographer and former Photo Editor at People Magazine and Berliner Photography.

Please read Amber's story and, if you are moved to do so, share your own in the comments. If you have resources to share, please add them as well. The more we recognize the symptoms of PPD, the more likely we are to reach out to friends and family to help. 

The more we see our own behaviors and experiences in others, the more we know we are not alone.

Thursday, March 20, 2014

Fear Is What We Must Unlearn: Mindfulness And Happier Parenting

I'll have what he's having.
I went to bed, crying, the other night. 

I told my husband it had been a bad day. The children argued often. Our daughter was especially difficult at various moments. I lost my temper too much. No one listened to what I needed. It felt as though everyone, including the dog and cat, wanted something from me every single minute of the day

I felt disconnected, both from my family and from myself. It was my son's special night to fall asleep in our bed with me and when the lights went out he was on the far side of a king-sized bed feeling like I didn't want him there. 

So he cried. 

And I cried. 

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